The dynamic between Sarah and Robert was not defined by a single conflict or misunderstanding. It was shaped over time by patterns—patterns of perception, accusation, withdrawal, and return. Robert consistently understood himself as different from others. More capable. More insightful. More aware. He saw himself as someone ahead of the curve—setting standards rather than adapting […]

This post includes reflections on a child’s dream and themes of spiritual discernment. There are moments that don’t make sense when they happen.They only make sense later — once you’ve survived long enough to look back. This was one of those moments in Sarah’s story. They had been staying with Robert briefly after a COVID […]

Spiritual abuse rarely starts with shouting or ultimatums. Often, it begins quietly — in subtle comments, twisted scripture, or “forgiveness” offered when no wrong was done. These moments can feel confusing, even surreal, these are the subtle signs of spiritual abuse. For Sarah, it was the text message from Robert that said, “It’s okay, I […]

Sometimes Truth is Stranger Than Fiction The following is a verbatim excerpt from a personal exchange, presented as it was experienced and understood by the author. The words may sound messy, even “crazy” at times. That’s exactly the point. When truth collides with secrecy, denial, and scripture used as a weapon, the result is confusion. […]

Navigating out of Spiritual Bypassing, Control and Manipulation There is a particular kind of ache that comes when the name of Jesus is twisted into a weapon. It doesn’t feel like ordinary pain. It cuts deeper because it touches the place where trust was meant to live. When someone cloaked in spiritual language—whether a street […]

A Gift or A Chain Sarah remembers the early days of her relationship with Robert as open and safe. Their conversations felt honest and vulnerable — the kind where weaknesses could be shared without fear. She believed that this rare openness could be the foundation they would build on. But the relationship began to shift. […]

What follows is a genuine exchange, preserved as it happened—only minor typos corrected. Brief, trauma-aware reflections after each section have been added to help you notice subtle dynamics: when reassurance becomes control, when spirituality masks avoidance, when projection blurs truth, and where self-differentiation breaks through. Read slowly, and listen to your own body as you […]

A Personal Testimony of Spiritual Confusion, Abuse, and Grace This testimony reflects one woman’s lived experience, perceptions, and spiritual understanding of events as she experienced them. It is shared to bear witness, not to accuse, and represents her personal truth. There is a particular kind of disorientation that comes when language meant to give life […]

Some betrayals feel especially disorienting—not because of what was done, but because of who did it. Spiritual abuse in the church carries a unique kind of confusion, one that can take a long time to untangle and heal from. He prayed.He prophesied.He quoted Scripture with ease.He moved comfortably in spaces where worship, music, and spiritual […]